Combine all ingredients except coleslaw mix in a small bowl.
Stir dressing ingredients together until sugar dissolves.
Add a little more of any ingredient to get the balance you like.
Pour coleslaw mix into a large bowl and pour half of the dressing over it. Gently fold it into coleslaw mix until evenly distributed.
Keep adding a tablespoon or two of dressing, folding between each addition just until the cabbage is lightly coated (see notes below).
Allow coleslaw to rest at least 30 minutes before serving.